Terrance Edward Stallcop
May 18, 1947 to April 28, 2020
On April 28, 2020 Terrance Edward Stallcop was taken into the arms of Jesus. He lived with Parkinson's Disease for 16 years and through it all kept his positive attitude, sense of humor and loving spirit.
Terrance (Terry as he was known by family and friends) was born in Seattle, Washington on May 18, 1947, second son to John Kirby Stallcop and Mathena Robson. He attended Lewis & Clark High School in Spokane and Eastern Washington State College in Cheney. Afterwards he moved to Washington, DC to attend graduate school at Georgetown University where he received his MBA.
While working in DC he met his wife, Miriam Vallejo, and the two were married at Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church in Bethesda, Maryland on March 4, 1972. Their first child, Kelly Nicole, was born in November 1975 and the three of them lived for several years in Stamford, Connecticut before relocating to Newbury Park, California in 1980.
Together they built a beautiful life in California. Throughout the 80's Terry had a successful career in the emerging field of information systems. Both inside and outside the office he and Miriam met wonderful people and developed close relationships, some of which would become lifelong friendships. As a family they enjoyed traveling the world and exploring California, their favorite places being Disneyland, Santa Barbara, Lake Arrowhead, Mammoth and Lake Tahoe. Terry's passions were playing golf and tennis, snow skiing, water skiing, and hosting parties.
In the 90's Terry began a second successful career as a consultant and director. He traveled quite a bit for work but also made time to enjoy trips with his family. Some of his fondest memories were eating hula pies at Duke's Canoe Club in Kauai, spending the occasional day in charming towns like Solvang, and driving up the California coast to Carmel and Cambria. Friendships meant a great deal to Terry and continued to bring him cherished memories. It was during this time that he met his Stonehenge coffee club - a group of guys that met regularly for morning coffee to discuss topics such as faith, politics, business, and family. He thoroughly enjoyed this group and as its youngest member became affectionately known as the "kid." The 90's also brought the inauguration of his infamous Super Bowl parties during which he and his buddies would not only gather at his home to watch the game but would also be found outside throwing a football around the neighborhood. This was always a highlight of his year.
In 2000 Terry and Miriam welcomed their son, Andrey James, and their second daughter, Anastasia Marie, to the family. This was a very special time as it was a long held dream for them to have more children. Over the next two decades Terry relished life, seizing every opportunity to make the most of his time here on earth. He was ever grateful to make a life changing pilgrimage to Lourdes, France; to have more fun times with friends including an epic Hawaiian party and many nights on the karaoke machine; and to answer a deeper call to ministry at his home parish - St. Julie Billiart Catholic Church. During these years he joined the church choir (with whom he traveled to Rome to sing at the Vatican), became president of the Pastoral Council, and developed an employment ministry so successful that it landed the parish's pastor a meeting at the White House.
Terry loved people. He loved encouraging, inspiring, and leading in the most gentle way. He treated everyone with equal respect, could find a way to relate to anyone, and had a gift for making each person he encountered feel important. He took the time to listen, really listen, and as a result was always able to give just the right advice. Terry was the kindest, happiest, most giving, patient and positive person one could be blessed to know. He was an incredibly loyal soul, a man of his word and a true gentleman. He was a role model to many and brought out the best in all of us who knew him.
Family was the most important thing for Terry. Everything he did - working hard at his careers, planning wonderful trips, aiming to provide every opportunity life had to offer - was all for the love of his wife, children and grandchildren. As a father he could often be found joking and laughing with his children, singing at the piano, sharing in their love of the latest movie, talking about life's ups and downs, throwing a beach ball around the pool, teaching them how to ski or write a resume, and even attending the occasional rock concert. As a grandfather he did his best to encourage his grandchildren, telling them that this was "their time" and to go after their dreams. He reveled in their milestones and took interest in whatever made them happy.
Living life to the fullest and deeply appreciating the joy of relationships brought about wonderful human connections in Terry's life. Nowhere was this more evident than in his marriage to his wife, Miriam. Their marriage was the kind that is rare. From the beginning their warmth as a couple radiated and drew people in, making them feel as if they too were a part of something special. There was a deep respect between them and a love and devotion to each other that was completely selfless. Nothing exemplified this more than her care for him over the past two decades as their marriage vow - to love one another in sickness and in health - became more tangible. Even after he moved to a nursing home two and a half years ago she was there for hours every day - encouraging him, helping him eat, helping him walk, and just sitting by his side to keep him company. The staff told her they had never seen anyone so devoted and that he was very lucky to have her by his side. Their love and commitment was a gift to behold and moved us all deeply. They had just celebrated 48 years of true happiness in marriage together.
Not long before he passed Terry said this: In life, it doesn't matter what we do for a living, where we live or what we have in our possession. The only real measure of success is the kind of relationships we have. He did not believe in conflict or criticism but rather in laughing together, complimenting one another, forgiving the little faults in each other, and making lasting memories. He lived his values wholeheartedly and was an exceptional husband, father, grandfather, friend and colleague. The lessons he taught us all, not just by word but by example, will be his legacy and the beautiful memories he left us with will keep him alive in our hearts forever.
Terrance is survived by his beloved wife Miriam; his three children Kelly Bailey, Andrey Stallcop, and Anastasia Stallcop; and his four grandchildren William, Ryan, James and Lillian Bailey.
May 18, 1947 to April 28, 2020
On April 28, 2020 Terrance Edward Stallcop was taken into the arms of Jesus. He lived with Parkinson's Disease for 16 years and through it all kept his positive attitude, sense of humor and loving spirit.
Terrance (Terry as he was known by family and friends) was born in Seattle, Washington on May 18, 1947, second son to John Kirby Stallcop and Mathena Robson. He attended Lewis & Clark High School in Spokane and Eastern Washington State College in Cheney. Afterwards he moved to Washington, DC to attend graduate school at Georgetown University where he received his MBA.
While working in DC he met his wife, Miriam Vallejo, and the two were married at Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church in Bethesda, Maryland on March 4, 1972. Their first child, Kelly Nicole, was born in November 1975 and the three of them lived for several years in Stamford, Connecticut before relocating to Newbury Park, California in 1980.
Together they built a beautiful life in California. Throughout the 80's Terry had a successful career in the emerging field of information systems. Both inside and outside the office he and Miriam met wonderful people and developed close relationships, some of which would become lifelong friendships. As a family they enjoyed traveling the world and exploring California, their favorite places being Disneyland, Santa Barbara, Lake Arrowhead, Mammoth and Lake Tahoe. Terry's passions were playing golf and tennis, snow skiing, water skiing, and hosting parties.
In the 90's Terry began a second successful career as a consultant and director. He traveled quite a bit for work but also made time to enjoy trips with his family. Some of his fondest memories were eating hula pies at Duke's Canoe Club in Kauai, spending the occasional day in charming towns like Solvang, and driving up the California coast to Carmel and Cambria. Friendships meant a great deal to Terry and continued to bring him cherished memories. It was during this time that he met his Stonehenge coffee club - a group of guys that met regularly for morning coffee to discuss topics such as faith, politics, business, and family. He thoroughly enjoyed this group and as its youngest member became affectionately known as the "kid." The 90's also brought the inauguration of his infamous Super Bowl parties during which he and his buddies would not only gather at his home to watch the game but would also be found outside throwing a football around the neighborhood. This was always a highlight of his year.
In 2000 Terry and Miriam welcomed their son, Andrey James, and their second daughter, Anastasia Marie, to the family. This was a very special time as it was a long held dream for them to have more children. Over the next two decades Terry relished life, seizing every opportunity to make the most of his time here on earth. He was ever grateful to make a life changing pilgrimage to Lourdes, France; to have more fun times with friends including an epic Hawaiian party and many nights on the karaoke machine; and to answer a deeper call to ministry at his home parish - St. Julie Billiart Catholic Church. During these years he joined the church choir (with whom he traveled to Rome to sing at the Vatican), became president of the Pastoral Council, and developed an employment ministry so successful that it landed the parish's pastor a meeting at the White House.
Terry loved people. He loved encouraging, inspiring, and leading in the most gentle way. He treated everyone with equal respect, could find a way to relate to anyone, and had a gift for making each person he encountered feel important. He took the time to listen, really listen, and as a result was always able to give just the right advice. Terry was the kindest, happiest, most giving, patient and positive person one could be blessed to know. He was an incredibly loyal soul, a man of his word and a true gentleman. He was a role model to many and brought out the best in all of us who knew him.
Family was the most important thing for Terry. Everything he did - working hard at his careers, planning wonderful trips, aiming to provide every opportunity life had to offer - was all for the love of his wife, children and grandchildren. As a father he could often be found joking and laughing with his children, singing at the piano, sharing in their love of the latest movie, talking about life's ups and downs, throwing a beach ball around the pool, teaching them how to ski or write a resume, and even attending the occasional rock concert. As a grandfather he did his best to encourage his grandchildren, telling them that this was "their time" and to go after their dreams. He reveled in their milestones and took interest in whatever made them happy.
Living life to the fullest and deeply appreciating the joy of relationships brought about wonderful human connections in Terry's life. Nowhere was this more evident than in his marriage to his wife, Miriam. Their marriage was the kind that is rare. From the beginning their warmth as a couple radiated and drew people in, making them feel as if they too were a part of something special. There was a deep respect between them and a love and devotion to each other that was completely selfless. Nothing exemplified this more than her care for him over the past two decades as their marriage vow - to love one another in sickness and in health - became more tangible. Even after he moved to a nursing home two and a half years ago she was there for hours every day - encouraging him, helping him eat, helping him walk, and just sitting by his side to keep him company. The staff told her they had never seen anyone so devoted and that he was very lucky to have her by his side. Their love and commitment was a gift to behold and moved us all deeply. They had just celebrated 48 years of true happiness in marriage together.
Not long before he passed Terry said this: In life, it doesn't matter what we do for a living, where we live or what we have in our possession. The only real measure of success is the kind of relationships we have. He did not believe in conflict or criticism but rather in laughing together, complimenting one another, forgiving the little faults in each other, and making lasting memories. He lived his values wholeheartedly and was an exceptional husband, father, grandfather, friend and colleague. The lessons he taught us all, not just by word but by example, will be his legacy and the beautiful memories he left us with will keep him alive in our hearts forever.
Terrance is survived by his beloved wife Miriam; his three children Kelly Bailey, Andrey Stallcop, and Anastasia Stallcop; and his four grandchildren William, Ryan, James and Lillian Bailey.
